It's Never Too Late To Take Control Of Your Own Happiness | Emily Bashforth

It's Never Too Late To Take Control Of Your Own Happiness


I'm going to start this blog post with a little anecdote. Yesterday, a girl in one of my classes in College walked into lesson and told us about how she suddenly had the urge to turn her life around. She had plans for her future. She wanted to finish her A-Levels, go to University and become a Psychologist, but has now decided that, actually, isn't what she wants to do at all.
She walked into lesson, confidently, with a spring in her step and smug smile on her face and told us about how she now wants to drop out of College and take an apprenticeship in body piercing to become a piercer, which makes sense as she has a lot of piercings herself and they look pretty damn awesome!
Our exams start next week yet she has decided not to sit any of them and to leave College before they start to begin her apprenticeship, despite having done a year's worth of work in preparation for said exams. Also, the last thing I shall mention about her is that she has been studying Geography, Sociology and Psychology. and so this apprenticeship is obviously a totally different thing for her and being a body piercer is a whole world away from a Psychologist.

The reason I am telling you this is because this girl decided to make this decision to turn her future on it's head because it is going to make her happy. She has a passion for piercing and that is what she wants to do with her life. She came to College simply because its what everyone else was doing, so she felt pressured, despite not being a lover of education and the system constantly making her stressed and unhappy.
Despite the fact that exams are a matter of days away and she has worked all year for them, doing homework, writing essays and revising, she just doesn't want to do them because, ultimately, they aren't going to contribute towards her happiness.

I wanted to remind you all that it is NEVER too late to take control of your own happiness. If you are currently doing something, whether that is in fact studying subjects at College which you don't think are really you, or whether its something bigger like a job you aren't enjoying or something else, whatever it is, you can change that. It is entirely up to you as your happiness is in your hands. You are the only one who can create it. No matter how close to exams it is or how much money you make doing your job everyday, if it doesn't make you happy, cut it out of your life and go and find something that will.
You are the only person who is going to be in your own life forever so why would you want to spend the little time you have with yourself feeling unhappy? It may sometimes feel like you can't change things. For example, this girl may have thought "Oh no I can't drop out of College now, its far too close to exams" but there are always going to be obstacles, there are always going to be things which you could use as an excuse not to do something, but you need to ignore them and focus on the thing which always matters and which should always come first in life, which in fact your happiness.
You really can do whatever you want in life, you can do whatever job you want, no matter how little you get paid, you can live wherever you want, no matter how far away it is, you can build relationships with anyone you like, no matter what anyone else's opinion is of those people because, at the end of the day, it isn't always the high-status jobs or the fancy houses that make us happy. Whatever your heart gravitates towards, go grab it and allow it to be in your life.

It is never too late to make the decision to change what you're doing or to do something different as long as it has a positive impact on your life. Life really is too short and you don't want to spend the rest of it wondering "But what if I did that...?" No, you aren't too old, no you aren't too dumb, no you aren't too poor, you aren't too ordinary, you aren't too this or too that, there is no reason why you should not be able to make a change in your life to make you happier. It is totally acceptable to wake up one morning and suddenly think "You know what, I actually don't want to do this for the rest of my life, I want to change my plans completely..." because we all have a journey to go on and different paths to follow in order to reach our final destination of happiness, and you will get there, you just need to have the courage to take control of it.

No matter what situation you are in, you are the only one who has the power to make yourself happy. YOU are in total control of your happiness and no matter what you believe or what anyone has told you, there is always a way to change things and it is never too late, I promise.

So, what do you want to change to make yourself happy? And what are you waiting for? <3

Love, Emily :) xx

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